The instructions above taken from Ephesians 5:33 (NIV) are very enlightening and useful. God makes it very clear in these words that not only are men supposed to love their wife, but the wives are supposed to respect their husband. Above all, a man desires respect just the same as a woman desires to be loved.
“Let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”
It is very disparaging for a man in a relationship not to receive respect, especially from inside his own home. There is a huge difference between him knowing you respect him and you showing that you respect him. Men love to see their women deliberately show honor just as we are giddy to see them show us adoration. There is nothing wrong with having a submissive spirit when it comes to your man, ladies.
When he starts believing you don’t honor him, believe me, his doubts will start.Don’t even give doubt a chance to make a cozy nest in your home. We all know that a man isn’t perfect so there will be occasions that will erode your respect for him. There could even be one major incident that will diminish your level of respect altogether. However, it’s our job as a wife to see that this does not happen. We should not give place in our lives to anything that has no value. If we value respect for our significant other then we give that place.
For example, when your man comes home from a long day of work don’t immediately start hounding him about what needs to be done at the house. Give him time to settle in first. More so, if you don’t even verbally acknowledge that you’re glad for the head of household to be home, he will eventually pick up on that and wonder if you even appreciate him being there.Respect is an enormous issue that we have to continue addressing because there are too many divorces and break-ups happening. I am not saying that a lack of respect from women towards their husband is the key issue. I’m saying that this plays a major role in the withering of relationships. If a man doesn’t receive the respect he desires from his woman, he may start seeking it elsewhere.
And believe me, there are plenty of unkempt women who are willing to play that role for various reasons.Pray that God will give you the wisdom to show respect the way you need to, regardless. If you haven’t been showing respect at all, pray that it is instilled in you to flow over to your significant other. Release any judgmental attitudes or lack of mercy in your relationship. God does it for us every day.
Dwell on the good and pray about the bad. Start respecting him today.