However…I have learned that bitterness is the ultimate barrier to really experiencing love and joy.I have learned that it’s very important to overcome any deep rooted issues of bitterness, because it is an extremely dangerous condition of the soul. You will suffer and anyone else around you will catch the ugly residue.
Just as anger is more acidic to you than it is to others, resentment is poison flowing through the blood and it hurts the more it is harbored. According to Bishop T.D. Jakes, bitterness comes from “the inability to handle any strong negative emotion properly.”I’ve had strong feelings of unforgiveness and anger that tried to hinder me more than it hurt those who caused the negative emotions. I had to put the nail in that coffin and bury that mess quickly though. Let me tell you why.
A bitter woman typically raises bitter children. I learned that warning through one of my many occasions of reading.I refuse to raise a bitter child. My son has far too much potential for me to ruin that for him by passing on a contentious spirit. Matter of fact, I refuse to have a marriage filled with bitterness. There’s too much potential for great things to happen with my husband and me, for feelings of acrimony to lie dormant.
All of us as individuals should learn this lesson.Any emotions inappropriately handled in the presence of others will have a negative impact on them. Emotions are inherited. The influence we exert over others (especially our children) can be positive or negative. We have to decide if we want the former.
In Hebrews 12 it says we should “pursue peace with all people…lest any root of bitterness springs up causing trouble.” So, we must banish the bitterness. I’m striving to be a foundation of delight to everyone I come in contact with.What say you?