Women habitually come into the dating or marriage scene with “great” expectations of what our future man is going to be like or how he will be characteristically as a husband…You see what you want to see instead of seeing what you need to see.
As a result, when that man doesn’t meet those awfully high expectations that were set, we are ultimately disappointed and realistically downright turned off. We begin to speak disrespectfully to him, turn our nose up at every little thing he does or says, and sadly become silent altogether before long.
You just became the victim of your own misplaced expectations.Now what’s going to happen is your man or husband will have to pay for you not being fulfilled the way you wanted to be. He’s going to be the scapegoat for you not feeling whole or desired. The reality is, though, it’s not his fault your desires for this perfect man were, let’s see—illogical.
A man is only going to be just that—a man.
He’s not going to be this perfect prince who will sweep you off your feet every day or take you on romantic rendezvous at random like they do on Lifetime or in the movies. Matter of fact, he’s not going to be all “lovey dovey” every day. That’s reality.
He’s going to be imperfect; just like you are.
It is absolutely great to have expectations for who you want to date or marry. We all want to be with someone who is morally sound and financially stable. However, it is unquestionably wrong to put highly irrational expectations on any person just so you can feel better about yourself. It’s not his responsibility to constantly fulfill your desires. He will not be everything to you every day.
The only expectations any woman should have for their man is fidelity, unconditional love, compassion, support, and protection. Anything else is optional and you might just search your whole life trying to find that "Mr. Right." As long as he is loyal, honest, loving, and keeps you secure in your home together, he’s doing his job. Anything else you’re seeking, you shouldn’t be looking at him; you should be looking to God to provide that. After all, He should be number one in your life anyway.
So I ask you, in dating or in a marriage, what are some expectations that you think are too irrational or highly misplaced? Do you feel we as women sometimes set the bar too high where no man but God can hurdle over?