I Don't Want to Nag...but How Do I Get Him to Listen?

A confrontational wife is like a constant dripping water faucet. It’s irritating and unbearable after a while. It even says so in Proverbs 19:13. Yes, the Bible does speak against nagging wives. Some of us don’t even think we are badgering our significant others when we speak to them—but we are. So how do we get them to hear what we have to say without being quarrelsome?

Most times we as women are tuned into things that men are not. We seem to pick up on the reality of situations before they can go wrong when our husbands or boyfriends don’t. So when we see that they are headed in the wrong direction, we want them to know—and we tell them.

We just have too. It’s in our nature.

However, there are some masculine men who don’t want to listen to a word you might have to say if it sounds anything close to motherly. Yes, it might seem a bit immature, but guess what? Women mature faster than men. It’s scientifically proven. So, what do you do?

You pray before you approach. Pray before Approach.

If there are words you must get off your chest in regards to what your man is or isn’t doing, pray first. I’ve tried it and it works, believe me. Ask God to open his ears and close his mouth to what you have to communicate to him. Ask God to bless his heart to receive whatever it is you have to say. Most importantly, ask God to impart a gentle spirit in you so that you communicate without malice.

When you do this and he still won’t listen. Don’t worry, let it ride.

Why? Because God has already been made aware of your issue and he is now working on your man. Just as he did with Abraham when he wouldn’t listen to Sarah in Genesis 21:9, God told Abraham, “Do not let it be displeasing in your sight…whatever Sarah has said to you, listen to her voice.” God will help you speak without being argumentative and He will help your man see when you are right.

Prayer does change things. Try it and see if you agree.