My previous posts during this season so far have been centered around rapper DMX and his estranged wife, Tashera Simmons...
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Earl Simmons, better known in the celebrity world as DMX, is a 41 year old man who has spent his life mostly in and out of institutions (including prison) thanks to his tumultuous childhood. According to him, he was "thrown away" by his mother who turned her back on him when he was a child. DMX states that his mother used to physically and verbally abuse him before dropping him off with Child Protective Services, never looking back.
Thanks to her, he's now a drug addict and has never been taught how to appropriately love a woman.
On last night's episode, DMX came face to face with his mother after seven long years. The last encounter they had didn't go so well, so I'm pretty sure all the viewers (and DMX) was hoping for a better one this time.
Unfortunately, I wasn't too happy about the encounter. Matter of fact, there was really no confrontation of past issues at all. Basically, DMX's mother denied leaving him behind and she definitely didn't acknowledge the accusations of childhood trauma that DMX blamed on her. It seemed to me that his mother came on the show just to clear her name and appear as the loving mother who wanted the best for her child.
While it broke my heart to see the hardcore rapper crying his eyes out, happy to see his mother, I was equally upset at the fact that this woman didn't seem to really understand the 41 years of hurt and abuse this man was exuding through his tears. My thing is, how can a mother not know that her son has been holding so much pain and animosity towards her for so long? How could she not know that he blamed her for his lack of love towards others and his drug and sex addictions? How could she simply not know?!?!
I was hoping for her to express her empathy for him having to endure all these years of hurt, but they didn't show that.
How many of you were shocked to see that she seemed unaware of DMX's childhood trauma? It made him look as if he'd made up everything about being beaten and sent away. What mother would let someone tell her to just leave her child behind and not look back? Would you do that to your child? I have a son and I definitely wouldn't just hand him over to the system. I would fight as hard as I could to rehabilitate him, even if that meant standing by and holding his hand while others tried to counsel him. I wouldn't just leave him in some group home.
It seems that the one thing DMX lacked in his life after all these years was unconditional love from his "mommy." However, I must say that after this breakthrough, I can see DMX starting to let go of the pain and embrace the future. I'm hoping for him and Tashera to start fresh now that he's heard "I love you" from his mother. It's going to take a whole lot more, though. I will be watching to see. I commend Tashera for standing by him, loving him through all of this. I respect her a lot.
What do you think about this week's show? How did you feel about his mother?