My Mess Became My Message: 3 Lessons I’ve Learned Post Divorce

I thank God for my recent breakthrough. It could have easily been Satan’s way to break me down; but throughout these past few months I’ve been reminded that what the devil meant for evil, God will turn it around for our good.

Invisible Fruit

"If a tree falls in the forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?"

Many of us are familiar with this age-old philosophical question. We've probably thought about it for a few moments, came to a conclusion and moved on. But I want us to revisit this question just long enough for you to read this article and then you can go back to what you were doing!

10 Life Lessons from The Christian Chameleon

Lately I haven’t had the chance to blog like I want to. Partly because of this work schedule I’m still trying to adjust my life to and more so because I haven’t had the right motivation to post anything on the website (just being honest). However, as I am continually learning to inspire myself just as God continues to anoint me to inspire others, I have been given the urge to post this particular blog.

In dealing with being separated from my husband since last August and transitioning into being a full-time deputy sheriff who works the graveyard shift while being a full-time mother too, I have taken note of my top 10 personal #LifeLessons that have helped me keep moving forward. I thought this important to share right now because this could very well be someone else’s transitioning season too.

 So here they are:

1.       Regret is an unforgiving emotion. Stay away from it at all costs. It will linger and never fade away if you let it enter and manifest in your life. Everything happens for a reason. Accept that.

2.       Stop trying the same things (or people, lol) over and over and expecting different results. That’s simply called being crazy. It’s never too late to change your course of action when trying to adjust your life for the better. If it didn’t work for you the first few times you tried to make it work, then move on to something else. Maybe it’s a reason that it’s not working in your favor.

3.       Stop overanalyzing and justifying. Either that job or relationship is meant for you or it isn’t. Either they care or they don’t. Either you’re unhappy or you’re not. The point is, stop trying to make every excuse for why you should remain stagnant. Stop trying to make that situation more than what it really is. Choose to move forward with a simplistic point of view. Understand that God is the one who’s really in control, you’re not.

4.       Trust is a privilege that’s given, not automatically earned. You can’t award your trusting heart to everyone you come in contact with. There’s a reason the Bible speaks of having a discerning spirit. Don’t award trust to those who aren’t worthy. When you do so, you give them access to possibly destroy your spirit (and your heart).

5.       The world is NOT conspiring against you. Stop being the victim and start becoming the victor. Don’t resign to the idea that life is full of hurt for you. Yes, situations and/or people may hurt you but instead of dwelling on that, start the process of healing. God wants us to live in peace because He has so much in store for us. You can’t fully live in your purpose if you think others are always out to take that away from you.

6.       Believe in the good of the world around you. Don’t live life with rose-colored shades on but do believe that God meant what he said in Jeremiah 29:11. Feel free to go take a look at that awesome promise in the Bible.

7.       Stop suppressing your emotions. It’s totally ok to feel what you feel in this phase of your life. Don’t worry about shielding yourself from being happy or sad. It’s a part of who you are. Just remember not to let your emotions control you. You control your emotions.

8.       Stop punishing yourself for the past. Yes, you may have chosen that relationship that ended up hurting you more than it helped you. You may have went against good advice and made bad decisions but life goes on. Understand why “it” happened the way it did, resolve to do better next time, and move on.

9.       Don’t wait for someone else to validate you, validate yourself. This has got to be one of the most important life lessons yet (at least for me). Stop looking for God in everyone. Not everyone can give you spiritually sound advice or encourage you to live your life pleasing to God (and not pleasing to them). Look within for your sense of self-worth and pray that God will see past your imperfection to glorify your perfect spirit.

10.   You can’t change anyone but yourself. Anyone can change their habits but absolutely no one else can change who God created them to be. Accept them for who they are and decide whether they need to remain in your life or not. This goes for you too. Accept who you are and remember that you can change your habits and your outward appearance but you can’t change who God predestined you to be.

I hope that these little tidbits have inspired you to look beyond the struggle and start having a more positive attitude toward life. Remember, things will work out not necessarily how we want them to but how they're meant to be. Any other life lessons you can think of? Feel free to share below...

Sincerely,

Becoming



The Butterfly - A quintessential example of "Becoming"


First I want to wish the Christian Chameleon Family a Happy New Year; I pray that 2013 is full of God’s favor and grace. Secondly, I want to say that this has been the most difficult blog I have ever written. I realize I haven’t written hundreds of entries, but the challenge of trying to translate what God has placed on my heart has been a great one. I hope it is clear and it blesses all who read it.

Live Your Life, Live Your Dream!

We all have big dreams we want to pursue in life. Some of us have realistic dreams and some of us have wishful dreams that are only capable of being reached in our private thoughts.

Either way, God gives us the power to dream...and dream big.

Gifts and Weapons



Robert Downey, Jr. as Tony Stark. Stark is a gifted scientist who is seen here developing the weaponry that makes him Ironman.



Who doesn’t like gifts? As we come into the holiday season to finish this year, much of America will begin thinking about what gifts they should buy for their loved ones and what gifts they’d like to receive. That’s because it feels great to give and receive gifts.

Foresight 20/20

As I look back over my life, and I think things over,

I can truly say, that I’ve been blessed.

I’ve got a testimony!

The incomparable Reverend Clay Evans is credited with penning the words to one of my favorite gospel songs! Anytime this song is played I can be caught singing along; and if I’m in a worship service, I’ll be the one standing, clapping and swaying like I should be in the choir. Like all great gospel songs I’ve Got a Testimony remains a classic because it has two important elements; its melody and its message.